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Saturday, February 08, 2003 ( 1:41 PM ) Scarf Girl Awww... son of a...!! I dropped my glasses in the sink and now there's a scratch right in the middle of the lens. GRRRR!! I mean, it's positioned PERFECTLY so that wherever I look, it follows. It's kinda like when a drop of water/rain/whatever gets on it and wherever you turn your head, your sight is distracted by this fuzzy little dot. Now what? Sucks that my health insurance didn't include vision care. I guess I'll have to pay out the wazoo for new lenses. I guess I'm due up for an exam since I need new contacts too. Site for Sore Eyes, here I come! SG, signing off. # ( 10:44 AM ) Scarf Girl Woohoo. I went climbing yesterday and I was still able to make some hard climbs after 2 weeks of not going. Hehehe. I did learn that I need to get a bit stronger for certain types of climbs. That's okay, maybe I'll just avoid those that require loads of muscles. So every year when I do my state taxes, I put my forms in the envelope and try to seal it. You ever notice how the seal on the envelope totally sucks? I mean, you put water on it, fold the flap over and press it to close. A few seconds later, the flap is a bit "soaked" from the few drops of water that you used. After it gets a little soaked, you press and press and hope that the envelope stays closed. After parts of it start unsticking itself, you have to grap some tape and tape along the entire edge. Afterall, if the stuff falls out, you're screwed. Scarf Girl, signing off. # Wednesday, February 05, 2003 ( 10:23 PM ) Scarf Girl So the question that someone asked me recently was "How long does it usually take a girl to fall for a guy and want to date a person and is there any hope pursuing a person that you are "just friends" with?" I'm going to be generic on this one (as usual) and say that it's any amount of time for a girl to fall for a guy. There is no way to put an exact amount of time, like 2 weeks, 3 days, 4 hours and 5 minutes. A girl could like a guy from the first time she shakes his hand. Mostly I would say that if he is her type physically, then she will be interested right away. If he's not the best looking guy out there, there's still a possibility when she gets to know him. As she gets to know him and it turns out that his personality is what she's looking for, then she'd really like him. Just because a guy is good looking, it doesn't necessarily mean that she'd go out with him. Girls aren't quite like guys. Some are, but many are not. As for chasing after a girl who you're "just friends" with, I'd say it's possible if there exists some chemistry. Sometimes two people are attracted/interested in each other but for one reason or another, never got to go through all the motions. In that case, there is/may still be this mutual interest that lay dormant throughout your "friendship." In this case, it's not hopeless, but move carefully as this could ruin the friendship. I hope that I managed to provide some sort of perspective on this topic. I wonder if someone is scheming to hit on a friend? Scarf Girl, signing off. # Monday, February 03, 2003 ( 11:41 PM ) Scarf Girl Okay, I owe an entry to my friend up north. Here it is... Here's the situation: You meet someone, and you both really like each other a lot. The problem is, you're living there only temporarily. What do you do? Some would choose the path where you remain just friends. This is the "safest" thing to do. I mean, if someone is going to leave in a few months, why bother if you're looking for something long term? Lots of people I know say that LDRs don't work. Some say they do. I guess it depends on what kind of person you are. Basically, the logic here is if you completely avoid the situation, you can't get hurt. Others would go for the path where they'd start a relationship and see where it goes. It may go nowhere, or may lead to some place really great. This path is slightly more daring. The thing is, you could end up getting hurt because once ther person moves away, you'll end up missing them terribly, or end up breaking up because of the distance. Either way, this path could result in more heartache. Perhaps both of these paths are too extreme for some. People in this case, would choose a combination of the two. What might that be you ask? Well, you are pretty much in every way a "couple," but you don't say that you're a couple. You don't make the final leap of commitment. You stay "friends" and yet, you see each other almost every day. You constantly talk on the phone. You share deep dark secrets. You MAY even share a kiss or two. This sort of behavior to me, seems so much like couplehood, and yet, people who are in this quasi-friendship-relationship (QFR) confuse me. To me, it seems a bit wishy-washy. They obviously want to be a couple, but they're scared of the "deadline." They scared to break up when the time comes for one of them to leave. They're too weak to stay away from each other because of their attraction. So what will happen when "M-Day" (moving day) comes along? Hmm...perhaps when the two are finally physically apart, they will end up in the worst case of the three. I say this because you figure if you decide to be friends, that's all you ever were. You can always continue the friendship via email, phone, or whatever. If you became a couple, and ended up breaking up, chances are you will never see each other again; end of story. If you became a couple and you decide to stay together, well, then maybe someday you'll both be in the same city again. You'll work hard at the LDR and someday maybe even get married. If you two work, then things will sort itself out in the end. So because you never quite had a friendship or a relationship, what the heck are you? What happens when you leave? Do you call? Should you write? What exactly do you mean to each other? What do you say when you leave? This all seems very confusing to me. In this situation, it's very likely that you get no real closure at the time of separation. Perhaps somewhere down the line, actual closure takes place, but in the present, not so much. If you find yourself in a QFR, make a choice, even if it's hard, and stick with it. Heck, even if you switch that may not be so bad. In the end though, be firm with whatever you choose. The important thing is to CHOOSE. Have no regrets and don't look back. Sorry for the super-long blog entry. Hope you were entertained. I'm sure at least one of you out there in the world will be. Scarf Girl, signing off. # ( 10:40 PM ) Scarf Girl Awww... son of a... I had my taxes pretty much all done and then I received yet another W-2 form today in the mail. It turns out that I forgot about my severance pay from my old company. Although I was laid off in December of 2001, I received the severance check in January 2002. Gosh darn it. Now I have to do all the math over again. Scarf Girl, signing off. # ( 2:34 PM ) Scarf Girl Question submitted: "How long does it usually take a girl to fall for a guy and want to date a person and is there any hope pursuing a person that you are "just friends" with?" SG, signing off. # Sunday, February 02, 2003 ( 9:24 PM ) Scarf Girl So I guess it wasn't till very recently that I noticed that rental companies only rented out American cars. Why is that? Maybe it's because rental companies are helping out the American car companies. Who knows? I recently learned how to sorta knit. Yeah, I taught myself. Isn't that cool? I bought a book, read the instructions, and examined diagrams. Voila! Several hours later, I am 2 inches into knitting a scarf. All I can say is that if anyone ever gives me something that they personally knit themselves, I would TOTALLY appreciate it. It takes FOREVER, to knit even really small. It's not hard to knit, but it's kinda hard and awkward to learn, especially when trying to learn from a book. I considered trying to knit an entire scarf, but I don't know... it may take me a year at the rate I'm going. Heehee. Scarf Girl, signing off. # |
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